How do you check your ego at the door before you leave your home? When it comes to winning people over, it all starts with the skill to think about other people and not us first all the time. Those that remain self-centered and self-serving will always have a hard time getting along with the people around them. It’s hard to break that pattern of living, but not impossible. The first thing they need to see is the “BIG PICTURE”. If you want to improve your vision of the bigger picture and put others ahead of you, here are 3 things you’ll need to do:

  1. Understand what brings you the most fulfillment in your life, and that begins with healthy relationships that you build, not the things that you acquire. A person focused on themselves only will always feel hungry and restless. Healthy relationships will require you to get over yourself first.
  2. Check your ego at the door. We often think that the opposite of love is just hate. It’s not just that, it’s also being self-centered. If your focus is entirely about yourself, you will not be able to build positive & healthy relationships. Something to ponder on: A person who is egotistic can be described not as a person who thinks too much of him/herself but someone who thinks too little of others.
  3. Get out of your own personal bubble. To change focus, you need to exit your own little world. If your view of people is narrow or small, go try to visit places you have never been to, meet physically people you don’t know, and do things you have not done before. It helps change your perspective. It has done a lot for mine.

This is a reminder that the entire world is composed of others, not just us. This is how you win people over.

Question of the day: Do you think you have a huge ego or no?

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December 21, 2020 Khel Lawrence

When I lived in another country for a year, my personality and attitude changed entirely. When I returned home, my family noticed the big change in me and my brother even mentioned that I am more egoistic then ever. I did not even notice it maybe because I got used to it in a year because of my environment.

From there, I changed again to adjust my personality with my colleagues, family, and friends.

January 16, 2021 rhona

We live in a world where everyone has a really, really big ego. Ego overshadows everything, taking away our sense of rationality. It forces us to make everything about ourselves. We agree that self-esteem and confidence are must-haves to survive in this big bad world, but ego, my friend, is the thing tearing us apart.

January 16, 2021 rhona

Our ego is pushing all the nice people away. The harsh truth of life is that no one wants to be friends with an egoistic person. An egoistic person does not like being told if they’re wrong and always tend to take feedback a little too seriously. No one wants such people in their life. Dealing with them is stressful, and no one wants added stress in their lives.

January 16, 2021 rhona

A huge ego stops us from learning new things. Too much ego makes us stubborn. We don’t want to listen to anyone or ask for advice. It stops us from asking for help from people who might know better than us.

January 16, 2021 rhona

A big ego makes you a little too egoistic for love. Our ego stops us from exposing our vulnerable side because we don’t want to take the risk of facing rejection. We don’t take risks or the chance that could change our life for the better because we’re so engrossed in proving our point. Secretly, we keep waiting for others to come to us and by the time we realise, it’s too late. This way, we miss out on amazing people or even worse, alienate them.

January 16, 2021 Joseph Santos

The problem comes when people have egos so big their head won’t fit though the door kind of thing.

By this I mean when people’s egos are so big that they have actually stopped treating people with respect that have different opinions to them and stopped treating people with respect that are just different to them.

There is nothing wrong with people having opinions but a lot of people don’t know the difference between respectfully having an opinion and doing it in a condescending and arrogant way.

January 16, 2021 edward

Well when one who has a big ego you might say they become egotistical and nobody likes a person like that.

There’s nothing wrong with being confident in yourself but whenever it’s so much to the fact that you’re only absorbed in your own little world and you disregard other people’s feelings when it really becomes an issue

January 16, 2021 jocelyn

When a person seeks to boost up their ego they often target other people to accomplish it. Insulting them directly or indirectly in order to make themselves appear and feel good. They may put down other peoples achievements for the simple reason of gratifying their own egos, no matter what those achievements are, they will look to undermine them.

January 16, 2021 Hans Angelo

Certainly you are free to have as big of an ego as you wish but ultimately it will not serve you. The ego is always hungry, so the more you feed it the bigger it gets and the more it needs to be fed. If you don’t keep your ego in check you will never be satisfied no matter what you achieve.

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