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KEEPING YOUR INTEGRITY INTACT

KEEPING YOUR INTEGRITY INTACT

KEEPING YOUR INTEGRITY INTACT – A lot of people lose their jobs for being dishonest. I was one of them and I regret it to this day. Not because I got caught for being dishonest, but for abusing the trust that was given to me by people who believed in me the most. Here’s a quick story on how I resigned from one the jobs I loved the most.

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Earlier in my days working for a global company (I won’t mention the company and the year it happened), I was hired for a managerial position for a huge account that I had a great client-vendor relationship with. I was hired because of my experience working for the project in my earlier years as a supervisor. I was doing great with the account, impressing our client for constantly improving our process every month and quarter. 2 years in, I was handling the entire account of over 4,000 employees and 6 Operations Managers with my boss based in the US. My working hours were from 8:00 PM to 5:00 AM during weekdays and the way my daily attendance was monitored was through my work laptop by connecting to our online time keeping system.

But for certain days that I knew I was going to be late for work, I would log in to work from my laptop at home using a VPN to “pretend” that I was at work earlier. But in fact, I was going to be an hour or two late for work. Whatever my selfish reasons were, it didn’t matter. I would do this 1 to 2 times a week and it became a habit of mine. I knew it was wrong, but I kept doing it. Finally, after about 8 months of doing it, a network specialist from the client side saw an unusual log in pattern from my home during my work hours, and had it compared to my physical log in using my company ID records. It didn’t match at all. This got reported to my boss who was based in the US.

I got caught red handed for being dishonest about my working hours. It didn’t matter that I was doing a great job at work running the entire project. I had disappointed my team, my company and my boss who had given me so much freedom plus the highest level of trust which I wasted. Instead of getting reprimanded for it by our HR department, I tendered my resignation immediately, leaving the job that given me so much growth and freedom to operate.

To this day, I still keep in touch with my former boss through social media, but we never discussed about it again. I was in my 20’s during that time and learned a valuable lesson in keeping your integrity intact always.

I’m one of the many examples of people whose success was built on sand to say the least. It’s so easy and very tempting to just cut corners to pursue various reasons of selfishness. Doing what I did thinking I could not get caught became a habit when I did it for the 2nd, 3rd 4th time and so on. I was never made accountable for something that was never seen by anybody. This is one of the reasons why I dislike being late for anything nowadays. What I learned before was such a painful reminder for me to keep my integrity intact. What I was doing was stealing company paid time, which I was paid for on time always.

There’s many ways people act without integrity:

1. Selling a car and pretending that it’s running smoothly but really, it’s not.
2. Selling a house without disclosing the issues with the neighbors next door.
3. Claiming to have a particular qualification to get a better paying position at another company.
4. Not telling the truth to banks, clients, investors, family members or suppliers to get a loan, to sell a faulty product or to just delay paying for something you owe.
5. Creating fake sales figures, financial accruals and other numbers to ensure that you earn your full year-end bonus, get a salary increase or that coveted job promotion.

It’s so easy to cut corners, but it’s so hard to keep an intact integrity when there are plenty of temptations to do so. Just remember that all you’ve got is your reputation.

KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN ALWAYS. Here’s why.

Be careful and be observant to not allow yourself to be caught up in any form of deception. Always be on the lookout for any lapses in integrity and ethics. They come in many forms. From your boss encouraging you to boost up your sales numbers artificially at year-end, to someone offering you great investing tips that you think could be insider trading.

Any time you face situations like these, just say no. Be ready to decline and just step away. If need be, speak up and report it to the relevant authorities.

It’s also our job to keep other people honest by reminded and giving them the courage to act with integrity. This is how we can guide other people to do the right thing.

I have nobody else to blame for me letting go of the job I loved the most at that time. I did it all to myself, and we all learn our greatest lessons the hard way.

Integrity is a core value

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January 12, 2021 rhona

Integrity is about living in alignment with who you are and your truths. When we are in the world we behave authentically, meaning we have genuine reactions or responses to others. The importance of it is, when we are in alignment we are able to be ourselves, hold strong boundaries and connect with people who honour and respect who you are. We may experience happy coincidences and feel we are in the flow of life.

January 12, 2021 rhona

As we move into integrity, into living in alignment with our truth, we are shifting so profoundly that we might start letting go of pepole in our lives who are not healthy for us. Even if this causes temprorary pain and these people have a reaction we need to do what we need to do to honour ourselves and set aboundaries on what we will and won’t allow in our life. New people come into our life who are also in a place of integrity, and our relationships become stronger than ever before, more fulfilling, loving and intimate than ever before.

January 12, 2021 edward

Integrity is only important where one has done the work. Examined one’s self thoroughly. Examined one’s values, one’s opinions. Compared one’s grasp of reality with reality, discarded views that don’t fit, traded up to better ones. Fearlessly seen to it that one knows who one is, and for all the things one values or believes, one knows why.

January 12, 2021 Jimbogs

Integrity is similar to what used to be called honor. It is the refusal to betray one’s self. But it follows: one must first know one’s self, for integrity to be useful.

January 12, 2021 Joseph Santos

The first step towards integrity is to recognize that one’s beliefs and opinions are not personal. All of them were developed by others, held by others. One must have no loyalty to them. Their value is only where they are true: where they match reality. Only after one sees this can one engage in a process of testing them, one against another and reality against all, discarding the weaker where it fails to fit. Never refusing to examine conflict, and work through to the best available grasp.

January 12, 2021 Joseph Santos

Ultimately, that is what integrity is. Not a stubborn hold on what one feels is true, but a determined streak to see that it is true, to know why it is true. To discover and discard what proves untrue, for the sake of a worldview that has integrity. That holds together, and that a self can take reasonable pride in, because the reasons for it are all known. Because the self is what worked through to them.

January 12, 2021 jocelyn

Integrity is very important, only where one cares enough to know why. It will be important because the process of getting there will have proved and strengthened everything one holds. By then, it will be very difficult to betray – but there is never a point where integrity closes up and seals itself in, refusing any new unpleasantness.

January 12, 2021 aldwin

Integrity’s strength comes from knowing the truth of what one holds, so it can never shy away from whatever truth comes. Integrity knows how to meet truth head on, take it in and examine it, approve what’s real, and discard what’s false.

January 12, 2021 Anton

The value of integrity is never a power of refusal. It is a power of knowing why it accepts and rejects, that grows from and results in never fearing the test.

January 12, 2021 Albert

Integrity is your action conforming to your thoughts. It is when you stand up for what you think is right to the best of your judgement. And you will also allow the consequences of such actions and thoughts by someone else upon yourself.

January 12, 2021 Pogi

Integrity gives you that insight into your being and the courage that makes you own your actions and the consequences of them. Take that away… and you get a spineless, good for nothing vile creature who is only quick to point a finger at the world at his slightest of discomforts. No good has ever come out of that entity.

January 12, 2021 James Santos

Integrity, or at least the appearance of integrity, is important when you are to interact and to represent yourself in the External World, because when you are seen as an honest person and as someone that has a strong moral foundation, your name can be very much appreciated and respected in the eyes of whatever people that know you, from your own family to people whom you serve and/or provide with content.

January 12, 2021 nico

Integrity is the basis of trust. If we lack integrity it is obvious. This is the quality that shows through in a person, even when the person is wearing a mask.

January 12, 2021 Jim

Integrity means trust. If we want to interact and communicate with others, we need to first show that we have honest intentions, so that others can trust us enough to listen. After all, liars often find no ome to rely on, and vice versa.

January 12, 2021 genesis

By showing Integrity, we show ourselves as individuals that will not try to harm others, and are willing to take responsibility for our mistakes. This fairness and openess is what makes people listen.

Integrity is important for Leaders, who are carry the power of choice for the people, and bears the responsibility of taking care of them.

January 12, 2021 genesis

Integrity is important to show to our friends, family, and to be accepted by society. If we want people we can count on to stick by us in tough times, and others to rely on us for help, Integrity is key.

Integrity is the cornerstone where all friendship, cooperation, and unity stems from.

January 12, 2021 Jerome

Integrity in a bridge prevents it from cracking or falling. Integrity in a cloth prevents holes. Why is this? Because the engineer and the cloth-maker knows what holds everything together

January 12, 2021 renato

Integrity gives weight to your words. And with it, your words become true. Think of the convenience, speed, and dependability of words with integrity. When this person says something will get done, it will get done. Integrity makes what you say real.

January 12, 2021 Jimbo Manalastas

Integrity is a standard of social acceptance and trustworthiness. If you lose your integrity, you will be the pariah of the community and you could find yourself an outcast.

January 12, 2021 Nathaniel

Integrity allows us to remain steadfast in the face of all that life might throw at us. Like the walls of a building, it can only stand on good foundations.

Integrity is a trait that develops with reason and experience. It is based on solid but flexible thinking within human existence. It doesn’t come from any deity or demon, but from a personal willingness and attitude that stands for what is right and just because of an informed mind. That which is based on truth has integrity, so if we wish to develop integrity within ourselves, then we can’t fall into modes of thinking that stem from delusion and distraction.

January 12, 2021 rhona

Integrity is the opposite, in a way, of hypocrisy. It shows a trustworthy principled person who holds themselves to account for the things s/he does and says. This gives her or him quality and substance. A person of genuine integrity is not puffed up or self-righteous either. They are not even tempted to use double standards, rationalize away their inconsistencies or missteps. Their quality comes naturally, with grace because integrity is all pervading, integrating their whole moral system or character. A rare gem these days.

January 12, 2021 Hans Angelo

Based on my experience, integrity defines your success in life. It’s because of integrity that we have a fixed set of rules that we follow. If you go against what you believe, your foundation to success would shake. The rules are defined to make you successful and the right things to do.

Integrity is important because it’s a major building block to success.

January 12, 2021 Hans Angelo

Its fundamental to positive healthy relationships and a thriving society. Being honest and strong willed as a person encourages others and will help you move farther in life. It will keep you out of trouble and keep your spirit and psyche balanced. A society or human without it can be destructive or hateful and never think twice till ruin falls on them.

January 12, 2021 Joseph Santos

Integrity is the top and number one quality that every leader must-have.

This is the most valuable intangible asset -Value or quality- you can own

Any crack in your integrity, it will not heal again.

– That is Deep. #CoachAntonio

January 13, 2021 rhona

Integrity is self-control.

If you can’t control yourself, other people can’t trust you. A person of integrity is a person who can stop their desires despite a lack of consequences.

Ultimately, a person with integrity can respect them-self. They will find it much easier to live with them-self and navigate the world.

January 13, 2021 Joseph Santos

Integrity is important, because its function serves as the basis for trust. Without it, nothing works literally.

January 13, 2021 Albert

Think of integrity as the measure of the truth of your personal reality. We get to create a significant portion of our experience of life – even if it’s just the original thoughts that never leave our brains. If this reality is not truthful, then your personal reality is in question. To choose not to have integrity is the conscious equivalence of non existence. Truth and life are inextricably linked. People who choose to believe lies of their own creation are like zombies – not a real part of our conscious reality.

January 13, 2021 edward

Integrity is the foundation of all human interaction. The simple but necessary trust we have in our business dealings, our interpersonal relationships and so much more allows us to be relatable and not dangerous.

January 13, 2021 Jimbogs

Integrity is important because when you use it, you are enacting the Golden Rule of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Everyone admires someone who has integrity because these people are respectful, and honest. Someone with integrity will even do things that are not to their personal benefit. We see them as having elevated moral values.

January 13, 2021 jocelyn

Integrity is wholeness. A person who lacks integrity has a disintegrated personality pulled in different directions by incompatible commitments, or perhaps even lacking a coherent personality altogether. Integrity does not guarantee moral worth; after all, a person may be committed wholly to unworthy principles. But without integrity a person can’t achieve coherent goals, and furthermore can’t be trusted to act in a coherent way. In short, persons without integrity can’t be trusted

January 13, 2021 Jimbogs

Integrity is being consistent in all behaviours and in line with prevailing agreements.

It has a context component, in that an individual may be under all sorts of pressures to deviate from agreements and it has an individual component, in the sense that the individual needs to have the willingness and capability to understand and keep commitments.

It is important because it builds trust, which is essential for organizations and societies.

January 13, 2021 aldwin

It’s important for other people to have integrity because it involves aligning your actions with your self-image. Since most people instinctively don’t want to be a bad person, having integrity prevents them from doing underhanded deeds or using other people as scapegoats. That’s not why it’s important to people who actually think it’s important, but it’s an important implication for me and everyone else.

January 13, 2021 Anton

I believe that integrity is so important because for humans, there’s so much room for error and self-doubt.

I feel that mentally and emotionally, the only real cure for that is having as much integrity as possible. It keeps you close to what you believe in, doesn’t involve you in other’s drama, and keeps you whole as a person.

As far as I’ve seen, people will doubt whether or not they should have done the “right thing,” but no one really holds guilt for having integrity. Plus it keeps you consistent, which makes you pretty reliable.

January 13, 2021 Hans Angelo

Integrity is the “soundness” or stability of something/someone.

If you build a house with a lot of cheap wood and poor concrete, then the dweller fails to maintain it, that combination is a good example of poor integrity.

That house won’t last as long as it should. Not as long as a quality, well maintained house.

Now, a persons values, morals and principles build your character (your house).

I hope that helps.

January 13, 2021 genesis

Lack of integrity means that you’re willing to do things that harm other people. That translates into getting no respect from anyone who knows you.

That makes for a mighty unhappy life.

It creates a hole inside of a person that nothing can fill – but the urge to fill it will lead a person to further compromise their well-being.

In the end — it’s easier to strive to have integrity and sometimes fall short than it is to be indifferent to achieving any and living the rest of your life wishing you had.

January 16, 2021 Janeth

Integrity is adherence to a code, which will have principles that are derived from reality / truth. Denial of reality is a big sign of barbarism. In contrast, a person’s integrity is a big sign of civility. A barbarian can’t produce. They have to loot to survive. A civilian can produce. They exchange what they produce, contributing to everybody’s welfare.

January 16, 2021 rhona

Integrity can mean whole, consistent, resistant to peer pressure, honest, and be used to describe a virtuous character.

The importance is twofold. One importance is internal to you and determines who you are, and the other importance is external to you and how you are perceived by others who hold your reputation.

January 16, 2021 Joseph Santos

Because without it, what you say and do is worthless. If anything you say might be a lie, then listening to you is a waste of time. If anything you do might be a fraud, then what you do is not only meaningless and without any value but could cause harm or loss to others.

Even worse; a lack of integrity is not only lacking honesty and truthfulness towards others, but also towards yourself. When you start believing your own lies and to fool yourself, you fall very low indeed. Integrity is that one value that makes all others irrelevant if it is found lacking.

January 16, 2021 jocelyn

Integrity is unity for the interests of the body.

A ship in a storm cannot have two captains fighting for control. Only one captain must steer the ship following a safe plan. When challenged, the captain must hold a steady course toward both safety and the best interests of both ship and crew.

Thus integrity requires righteousness for both success and survival.

January 16, 2021 edward

Integrity is always doing the right thing, even if no one else is watching. It is critical to your relations with others. If you do not have integrity, you do not have honour, and vice versa.

January 16, 2021 aldwin

To save the world. Group thinking has destroyed the world. It’s time to become a truer version of yourself.

Be stubborn. Listen, but doubt every single thing any group tells you. Pretend to agree, but think yourself. You are smart. Pretend to be one of them, join something, but be yourself. There is only one copy of you. Don’t hand yourself over to be used for someone else’s purpose. Don’t take the bait. They want your mind, your money, your powers. Someone is getting rich and famous on your behalf.

The only way this world can improve is if we all take the effort and try to think honestly, independently about how to improve. We don’t need to be geniuses. We need to be our unique unpolluted ourselves.

January 16, 2021 Hans Angelo

Integrity fundamentally builds trusting relationships between individuals by being someone who exhibits and maintains honesty and morality. Yes, morality may vary from religion to religion and some non believers may have a strong belief in an ethical or moral code which they try to maintain throughout a lifetime. Someone with integrity is committed to trying to lead an honest and moral or ethical life and that is what most humans admire, respect, and trust.

January 16, 2021 Anton

Integrity comes from a place of gratitude, humbleness and balance and that creates connections and creates trust.

A person with integrity will be trustworthy, accountable, reliable, genuine and generous.

January 16, 2021 Albert

Because personal integrity is an essential part of being an authentic person. It extends out into all aspect of life. It is that character which people see, feel, and understand about you and it is what they want to reflect back.

January 16, 2021 Hans Angelo

I believe integrity is the basis of our society, areas that show little integrity you have higher crime rate, more integrity you have less crime, so the higher the integrity the less cost to society you have.

January 20, 2021 aldwin

Integrity means doing the right thing and being dependable. It is being impeccable in all of your actions, public and private. It means standing for what you believe in and being a man who can be trusted in all situations.

It is rare to find a man of integrity. An man of integrity is one whom you can trust with your money, you can trust him with your life, and you can trust him with your wife. When I think back and consider all the events of my life, I can say that I’ve met one or two men who had integrity.

January 20, 2021 aldwin

A man of integrity will do the right thing at all times. If he comes to a rare situation where he has been shown to be wrong, he will immediately correct the situation. He will not allow his own pride to interfere with doing the right thing.

January 20, 2021 rhona

Integrity, for me, is a way of life. It is what you do in the light and dark. It is not merely words or lip-service to make yourself look good. It’s not done to receive pats on the back from other people. It is genuinely being the absolute best version of yourself.

January 20, 2021 Joseph Santos

A person of firm character and righteous principles who remains true to both in the face of opposition and inducement to corruption who is not even tempted to corruption or hypocrisy. A person who yet is flexible, humble in recognizing his and others’ limitations or faults, and understanding toward them. rather than critical. Perhaps most important, a person who is very alert to ways we typically rationalize and otherwise delude ourselves into justifying inconsistencies and hypocrisies, parading our biases as truth. The person of integrity guards against these tendencies, coming clean to themselves on the distinction between what it’s convenient to think and do versus what’s right, and quick to acknowledge self-delusion.

January 20, 2021 jocelyn

Integrity best manifests in situations in which you are not held accountable. To paraphrase a popular definition of integrity, having integrity is doing the right thing even though no one is looking.’

It bears emphasis that among the many things that constitute a man of integrity, courage is arguably the most important. When facing overwhelming opposition, it takes a steely character to act in accordance with what is just and fair.

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