Self-help
Close (Esc)

TELL PEOPLE YOU NEED THEM

TELL PEOPLE YOU NEED THEM

TELL PEOPLE YOU NEED THEM – It just happened. This was the day I realized I can’t go on doing everything myself. It was a big step in my personal development as a human being and as a leader. I’m a person that always had vision, creative ideas and a lot of energy. But I realized that as your vision becomes larger than you are, you will either choose from two options: Give up on your vision OR get help.

I chose the 2nd option of course.

It doesn’t matter how successful you are, no matter how accomplished or how important you are. You will always need people to see your vision through. It’s inevitable. This is why you need to tell people that you need them, that you can’t win without them by your side. It’s not how big your brain capacity is, it’s how many brains you can “borrow”. I mean, why just stop with their brains, when you can also use a person’s hands and their hearts also.

I have this belief that if we can’t solve problems by ourselves, we CAN solve any problems TOGETHER. It just makes so much sense. Collaborating is such an underutilized strategy by most people. They feel like they can do everything by themselves, but really, it shouldn’t be the case. I learned it the hard way that you need people to build your dreams, otherwise, it will be very difficult to make it a reality.

I want you to take some time today to let the people around you know that you need them very much, that you appreciate them a lot. Always be grateful and thankful that they’re there for you no matter what the circumstances are.

Have you told your team that you appreciate them?

Book your 1-on-1 coaching session with me here. You just have to let go of your ego and pride: Mentor me Coach Antonio

Visit my YouTube Channel, my Instagram account and my Twitter account for daily tweets.

TEXT ME +639989941104

Social Media Share

What people talk 29 Comments

January 19, 2021 rhona

Recognize team members daily as human beings. This isn’t a comment about their work. It’s a 1-2 minute interaction to say “Hello, good morning, how are you?” Take a moment to engage with each member of your team as a person. Know them. “Did you catch last night’s game?” “You look tired, are you okay?” These interactions are vital to making an employee feel valued. Engage with them as human beings before you engage with them as employees.

January 19, 2021 rhona

Learn how they like to be appreciated. Public recognition isn’t for everyone. Words of appreciation may mean less to a person than being given a special privilege or token of appreciation. You need to know what will make them feel valued and speak to them in those terms.

January 19, 2021 Joseph Santos

Never use recognition of an employee to shame others. Some times, when large amounts of the staff are making mistakes, it can feel tempting to make a big deal out of the one or two team members who aren’t making mistakes. Don’t do this. It builds resentment and it puts the team members who are doing good work in a rough position with their teammates. Recognize them because they are worthy, not because you want to shame the rest of your team into better performance.
Say thank you. Mean it. Thank you for staying late. Thank you for being here on time. Thank you for working hard. Thank you.

February 23, 2021 Aldwin

It’s likely to be one of those things we don’t always realise until the day when we have a need or are abandoned, or we are all alone in a strange country and we are sick of injured or in hospital and there’s no one in particular who cares one little feather whether we live or die.

As true it is also.. That there are certain very shy or also extremely independent people who would rather not interact with others, considering themselves to be “private” and happily shut the door on any further conversation and won’t tell you a single personal thing about themselves.

Pride and fear of people or fear of rejection and a lack of trust, can also result in you not giving out any information to others that could help in forming a friendship.

I noticed this to often be the case with very academically-minded intellectual people who are often perfectly attuned to themselves and their own self-sufficiency.

February 23, 2021 James Santos

Yes. To a great degree. But, there’s a secret to the concept. Although we all find satisfaction and derive pleasure in the company of others, it’s the KIND of others we need to be aware of. People are complex. All people have needs. If one is fortunate they find friends and associates who compliment their lives and enrich them. But, that’s not always the case. The world also consists of people who are unhappy, unfulfilled, have had bad lives either because of treatment at the hands of others, or because of their own bad judgements. Envy, even hatred, can exist in the hearts of these folks and, unfortunately, many turn these feelings on those they consider to be more blessed than they.

February 23, 2021 James Santos

Discernment. It’s a word used in the Bible. It’s an intelligent and useful word. Yes. Judgement is not good, but you do not have to be “judgemental” to know that drug use, drunkenness, and dishonesty are things you’d be better off without. So, YES. We all need human companionship. It makes one feel warm and fuzzy and blessed to do good things for people and to have someone there when you need a friend. But, bad company is worse than no company if your life can be turned upside down by the words and actions of others. Consider.

February 23, 2021 Nico

We could say that “we only need others in our life”. On my own I am nothing else but a small, fearful, instinctive animal that desperately tries to survive day to day in a hostile world. Or we could say that on our own we are like disconnected cogwheels, aimlessly roaming, spinning around in a completely futile manner.

Our true Human existence, true Human consciousness and perception is acquired through unique, mutually responsible and mutually complementing interconnections, where everybody annuls towards the others building a unique, unprecedented collective intelligence.

This is the next stage of Human evolution the natural system demands from us. This is why until we start purposefully, actively moving in that direction we will continue sinking ever deeper into crisis due to our inherently egoistic, hateful and greedy nature misleading us.

February 23, 2021 Edward

I am a very independent person. I happily go for years without direct human contact. A desert island is an oasis for me.

Yet if I don’t have contact with someone once in a while, my mental health is negatively effected. I start to shut down.

Despite my rather extreme personality I cannot change the fact that I am a human, and as a human I have needs that are more fundamental than my personality.

February 23, 2021 Edward

Humans are social animals. Even the most unsocial of us need some social interaction in order to survive. It’s not just a nice thing to have.

This is why people have pets. To keep the social part of their brain active. Some might say it’s just cause they like animals. That’s saying exactly the same thing. To like – to be alike – is to share some commonality. That is only important in the psychology of social animals. Ergo keeping a social part of the brain active and liking your pet are the same thing.

February 23, 2021 Genesis

Unintentionally, what comes in way is our emotions. If we are not emotional and independent at the same time, then we don’t need anyone. But if so which is in most cases, then we become dependent or more aptly attached to it, so much so that we can’t think of living without him/her. Even if he/she hurts a lot.

Making a beautiful memory is the part of life. Being dependent due to same is the choice we make. We are the cause of what we are.

Hence, do we need others in life? Yes, if you care about people and are attached to someone like hell lot. No, if you are an independent person and an introvert to be precise

February 23, 2021 Tony

We are exactly where we are supposed to be. Only many times we don’t realize it and try to always run away from life.

A person who is innately introvert would be put into circumstances, where they would have to interact and a social butterfly suddenly find themselves alone sometimes in life. Then we have to start living the other side of the spectrum.

Once we really become comfortable where we are, we can strive to change it to where we want to be. But running away many times don’t give the mental balance to start changing our life to what we want.

So all are exactly where they are supposed to be. So some need others, some don’t.

All the very best! Regards,

February 23, 2021 Jerome

I don’t like being around people. I get nervous and think I am doing things wrong and everyone is going to make fun of me. The only solution to this problem, I thought, was to isolate myself from everyone else.

Isolation is nice, for a little while. After years of not talking meaningfully to anyone, pushing friends and family away, and trying to do everything on my own, I thought the only way out was to kill myself.

I got help. Reaching out was terrifying, but I managed it.

If I had been a bit more open before that moment, if I had people surrounding me, maybe I would have never gotten that bad.

February 23, 2021 Jerome

Life is much easier when you can share your burdens with others.

February 23, 2021 Joseph Santos

Reading extensively and often, helps. When reading, we are never alone! When praying, we are never alone!

February 23, 2021 Jimbogs

Man is social animal.

At various stages in life one will definitely need someone who understand him/her.

That person might be his/her colleague, partner, friend.

Person has to fight his struggles/ difficulties alone but someone must be there with that person who provide him/her support or boost him/her.

‘Everybody needs Somebody’

February 23, 2021 Dwayne

It all depends on how much we love or hate ourselves. Some people can live with or without someone in their life. They feel complete and happy being alone. Some people because of personal issues (selfishness, psychopath, narcissistic, controlling freak, etc.) are hard to live with, and choose to live by themselves because few people can stand them. They might find someone with the same character and feed its other’s ego. Normally, if we know ourself and find the true meaning of life, then we are going to be happy regardless if we’re alone or with someone else.

February 23, 2021 Redido

Yes we need other people unless and until we try to live all by ourselves.

We need others until we can convert the “loneliness” into “peaceful solitude “.

We need others until we start embracing the value of time and how important it becomes when we start devoting it to ourselves.

February 23, 2021 Anton

Our human life on earth is a connection to others and makes things happen and depend on each other. All good ideas and improvements in life itself require others to help and support in order to happen. Being all alone and no contact with others would make you lose of gifts from God.

February 23, 2021 Andrea

We need to have people because we are neither independent nor dependent but interdependent.

February 23, 2021 Andrea

Yes. With rare exception, relationships are the core of human existence.

February 23, 2021 Jimbo Manalastas

Some how from birth every or almost every human being is born insecure. This insecure feeling gives a feeling of lack or like there’s something missing, this feeling is tucked away in the unconscious so no direct awareness of this feeling is experienced by most.

This is the driving force of most people’s behaviors, where desires come from. This lack missing feeling forms desires in people. As we all know most humans desire other humans. Anytime somebody is fulfilling any kind of desire it’s selfish in nature.

Basically all of human interaction between each other is selfishly driven. This lack insecure feeling causes humans to use each other for selfish needs such as attention, security, entertainment to name a few.

Until people find themselves, their own love inside that we all possess at birth, the person is using others. The intention should be the other person or intrinsic and not what I can get out of them ex attention, security, entertainment, sex, money and on and on.

February 23, 2021 Rhona

In many religions, its a spiritual practice to live alone and gain control over ones mind. There the belief is that the world is distraction and to gain better insight of yourself, you need to be with yourself.

February 23, 2021 Rhona

The desire to be with someone is there. There is fear of being hurt or fear of failure. Now if you accept this fear and try to live alone hoping the desire to dry out or stay suppressed all the time, that will negatively affect other aspects of your personality.

Point is, you must find a better reason. Because every thought is feeling in words. you accept a reason, you accept a particular feeling. now the chances of that feeling being accepted in other cases increases. This affects how you think or things you accept as true and a part of life.

Its ok that you are hurt and don’t want to have relationships for now. Give time to yourself.

March 4, 2021 Andrea

Acknowledge Everyone
When you acknowledge someone, you recognize their value and importance. How about starting the day with a “Good Morning” email or Tweet? Or smiling at each and every co-workers as you pass by them by on way to the office? Or reaching out to a new acquaintance you see in a crowd or bump into in the Blogosphere? Go out of your way to acknowledge people. Make an effort to “see them”. Like the Na’vi in the movie Avatar, who greeted one another with the phrase “I see you” as a belief and acknowledgment there is something marvelous in everyone you meet.

March 4, 2021 James Santos

“More and more I’ve come to understand that listening is one of the most important things we can do for one another…. It can often be our greatest gift. Whether that person is speaking or playing or dancing, building or singing or painting, if we care, we can listen.”

March 4, 2021 Genesis

The ultimate thing you can give another is your PRESENCE. How many times have you been in a conversation with someone, and you know their mind is in another place? How many times have you felt unnoticed when someone was looking right at you? You do not have to be available for everyone in every moment … but when you have someone’s time and attention; honor it with your presence. Really make that person the center of your attention and experience, even if only for a few minutes.

It does wonders in the mattering department!

March 4, 2021 James Santos

“All you really need is one person to show you the epiphany of your own power and you’re off. If you can hand people the key to their own power, the human spirit is so receptive…if you open doors for people at a crucial moment, you are educating them in the best sense. You are teaching them to open doors for themselves.”

March 4, 2021 Nigel

Life and work is hard enough and it is easy to get into situations that tear us down. People want and need to be inspired. When people are inspired, they are lifted above these kinds of circumstances and allowed to see the upside of what they can achieve or become. If you can be the one who inspires them, by encouragement, you’ve helped them and you matter!

March 4, 2021 Edward

Tell the people in your life how you feel about them. If it doesn’t come natural to you, all the more reason to do it more often. It will begin to feel natural soon. Of course, “You matter” is what everyone wants to hear, but other phrases work just as well: “I’m happy to see you. You mean so much to me. You’re contribution to the team is immeasurable. I so appreciate you.” The language of mattering is universal; no translation necessary. Tell people and tell them often how much they matter!

Leave a comment, suggestion or a reaction...

Back to Top
Back to Top
Close Zoom
Context Menu is disabled

Subscribe To My Newsletter!

Join my mailing list to receive the latest news and updates!

You have Successfully Subscribed!

%d bloggers like this: