I recently completed reading a good eye opening book from Amy Morin who is a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor and psychotherapist. In the book “13 things mentally strong people don’t do”, Amy focuses on talking about mental strength on a global level. In these times where the global pandemic has caused us all to live socially distant more than ever with our friends and colleagues, I believe it’s important to share things that people who have strong mental fortitude do, to people who don’t have it in them understand what they can do to help themselves. As human beings, we are all mentally strong but not all the time, especially when faced with problems in life left and right. If you’re a person who is stressed a lot, depressed and wants to get rid of your problems including being strong in all sorts of ways, this book is for you.
Here is the simple list below:
1. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself .
2. Don’t give away your power.
3. Don’t shy away from change.
4. Don’t focus on things you can’t control.
5. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
6. Don’t fear taking calculated risks.
7. Don’t dwell on the past.
8. Don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
9. Don’t resent other people’s success.
10. Don’t give up after the first failure.
11. Don’t fear alone time.
12. Don’t feel the world owes you anything.
13. Don’t expect immediate results.
I do hope happiness and success comes to people who follow all the 13 things mentioned in the book as chapters. This book could change the way we see problems. Actually, problems aren’t really problems, they are just state of minds or a situation which needs strong minds to overcome it.
“When the mind is weak, the situation turns into a problem.
When the mind is balances, the situation is a challenge.
When the mind is strong, the situation becomes an opportunity.”
Amy Morin explains here how you can overcome life’s challenges or problems by following the 13 things listed above using real life examples to explain how people overcame their own challenges in the most simplest of ways. Things that these people saw as a problem initially.
“People who avoid failure also avoid success.” Robert Kiyosaki
Recognizing and replacing the unhealthy thoughts, behaviors and feelings that may be sabotaging your best efforts is the key to building our mental strength. No matter what your goals are, you’ll be better equipped to reach your full potential when you feel mentally stronger. It’s all about habits, good ones. Good habits are important, but it’s often our bad habits that prevent us from reaching our full potential. Even if we do all the good habits in the world, but we struggle to remove the bad habits along the way, it’s going to be difficult to reach our goals. WE ARE ONLY AS GOOD AS OUR WORST HABITS.
It is our mind that thinks about the problem and it’s our mind which we need to train to overcome problems. Comparing physical strengths with mental strengths, it requires healthy habits, exercise and hard work. Being and staying mentally strong so we can easily find a way for happiness plus success in our own definition is what it’s all about.
Question of the day: Which of the 13 things mentally strong people don’t do you wish you could have?
December 13, 2020 Author Marinela Paano
“Don’t focus on things you can’t control”
I am a kind of person who is going to the flow, if its happen then so be it but i always end up being disappointed with myself. I hate thinking so much because i totally breakdown but I can’t do anything with it. I tbink too much about everything how’s me, how will be my future if eto lang ako. Hays. I’m so tired thinking of all things i can’t control.
December 18, 2020 Author Joseph
I chose #9 Don’t resent other people’s success. Most of the times, I compare myself with everyone especially when i look on social media. I see many people having different versions of success and for me, life is very unfair.