I can’t remember the last time I received more gifts during Christmas than actual gifts I give during the holiday season. It’s likely that the older we get, the less gifts we tend to receive. We all know what great feeling it is as a kid, that we receive presents from our parents, relatives and friends, regardless of what it was. The feeling of just unwrapping presents is just a good overall feeling.
But there’s this more satisfying feeling in our life that we now know is so much better than receiving. It is to have been able to give a huge part of ourselves to others. Anybody who has helped another person selflessly without anything in return knows this is 100% true. But why is it that not everyone is able to wrap their heads around adopting an ongoing mindset of giving more of themselves towards another person? The answer I believe is that it has nothing to do with our own circumstances.
I’ve been blessed to have met the most generous people with almost nothing but are willing to share or give anything little that they own or possess. I’ve also been around the most well-off people who are epitome of stingy when it comes to their talents, time and money. What’s the difference between the two that I described? It’s two things: Mindset and attitude.
I’ve noticed that people who give with no strings attached have what we call an “Abundance Mindset” most of the time. These are the people that don’t have the need to broadcast to everyone how many people they have helped, however big or small it may be. They’re naturally generous people because they have a belief that if they give, their resources of wealth will never be empty. The moment we stop giving using a “scarcity mindset”, the little we have will become even less than what it is. When we give openly without thinking that we’re going to get something from doing this using the Abundance Mindset, we we give away eventually multiplies in ways we are not aware of or expect.
I believe this mindset is true and it works. A student of mine recently asked me in one of our Life Deck Masterminds Class why does he need to learn the Abundance Mindset? My answer caught my student by surprise. When you believe there is an abundance of wealth, life will give it to you. If you believe that your resources are scarce, then that’s what you will get. This is what decades of giving your attention to the attitudes of people around you will do. This is life unfolding for all of us, slowly. I know what I speak of is the truth.
If your wish for yourself moving forward is to be more generous and giving, the only thing you need to change is how you think and your attitude about abundance. This makes you more generous as a person, but also it will change your life completely. I always tell all my students this in our classes, that money is an amplifier of who a person is. If you give a poor person who is insecure more money, they will become more insecure as a person. If you give an asshole or a bitch more money, they will become a bigger asshole or a badder bitch. But if you give a poor generous person more money that they deserve, they become even more generous. Do you agree?
Question of the day: What is your mentality when it comes to giving?
December 28, 2020 Author chaoticcarl12
We all know how great it feels to receive gifts. However, the joy of getting is short-lived. Our lives are richer when we share, and that great inner joy comes from helping others to better their lives.
Truly giving from the heart fills your life with joy and nourishes your soul. Giving provides an intrinsic reward that’s far more valuable than the gift. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “To find yourself, lose yourself in the service of others.”
Giving takes you out of yourself and allows you to expand beyond earthly limitations. True joy lies in the act of giving without an expectation of receiving something in return.
A taught from the my school that I have pondered with stand is that from Academic research and thousands of years of human history confirm that achieving meaning, fulfillment, and happiness in life comes from making others happy, and not from being self-centred. Mother Teresa is a famous example. She found fulfillment in giving of herself to others. She helped change the expression on dying people’s faces from distress and fear to calmness and serenity. She made their undeniable pain a little easier to bear.
December 28, 2020 Author chaoticcarl12
We all know how great it feels to receive gifts. However, the joy of getting is short-lived. Our lives are richer when we share, and that great inner joy comes from helping others to better their lives.
Truly giving from the heart fills your life with joy and nourishes your soul. Giving provides an intrinsic reward that’s far more valuable than the gift. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “To find yourself, lose yourself in the service of others.”
Giving takes you out of yourself and allows you to expand beyond earthly limitations. True joy lies in the act of giving without an expectation of receiving something in return.
A taught from my school that from, Academic research and thousands of years of human history confirm that achieving meaning, fulfillment, and happiness in life comes from making others happy, and not from being self-centred. Mother Teresa is a famous example. She found fulfillment in giving of herself to others. She helped change the expression on dying people’s faces from distress and fear to calmness and serenity. She made their undeniable pain a little easier to bear.
January 1, 2021 Author Khel Lawrence
Ideally, we have this mentality of “It is better to give than to receive”… I used to think like this. But eventually, I changed my mindset to “Give people who only deserves it”. Why is my mindset like this?
Just to tell you a short story, I always give people a small token of appreciation. I used to think that whether they helped me on small things, they also deserve something in return. I also gave some small things to those people who ask for it, and eventually, I give in. One time, when I gave a small token to somebody, I saw them either giving it to others, or throwing it away. For me, it is really annoying as they treat the tokens I give no value to them. When I receive them, whether it is something small or big, I always give value to them.
January 17, 2021 Author rhona
A phrase that helps me balance my own urge to accumulate things is “give everything, expect nothing.” I say this because I find giving to be so rewarding and gratifying. It’s through acts of generosity that I experience more joy, peace, and purpose in my life.
January 17, 2021 Author rhona
Getting to a mindset of giving freely takes work. It challenges our long-ingrained beliefs that keeping as much as possible ensures our well-being. Reflecting on what we have and what we don’t have, and coming to terms with both, allows us to move forward with the perspective that it’s alright to let go, that we don’t have to have it all to be safe.
January 17, 2021 Author Joseph Santos
Giving does not require money or stuff; those things are finite. All it takes is a smile and a “thank you” when someone holds the door open for you. It’s the sharing of unique skills, talents, and knowledge that only you have to pass along. It’s holding someone’s hand through a difficult time and listening with an open heart when people just need to talk.
Every one of us has infinite gifts like these to offer, whether we recognize them or not. The return is a greater sense of well-being than any physical object can ever provide.
January 17, 2021 Author edward
Giving promotes cooperation and social connection. When you give, you’re more likely to get back. When you give to others, your generosity is likely to be rewarded by others down the line sometimes by the person you gave to, sometimes by someone else.
January 17, 2021 Author Hans Angelo
Giving evokes gratitude. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of a gift, that gift can elicit feelings of gratitude, it can be a way of expressing gratitude or instilling gratitude in the recipient. Gratitude is integral to happiness, health, and social bonds.
January 17, 2021 Author Henrique
For me, giving is contagious. When we give, we don’t only help the immediate recipient of our gift. We also spur a ripple effect of generosity through our community.
January 17, 2021 Author jocelyn
I learned that when we’re generous our brains release several chemicals that give us a sense of joy and peace. So, it really is better to give than to receive.
January 17, 2021 Author aldwin
Generous people are fun to be around. They are generous with their time, their talents, and their words. They encourage others and inspire them to be better than before. They make their friends feel braver, stronger and smarter. And more than that: Their generosity is contagious. Generosity makes us feel good; and when we feel good, we’re better at making those around us feel good, too.
January 17, 2021 Author Anton
Giving a gift isn’t just about material transfer. There are also measurable social and neurological benefits. Gifts or something you give reinforce bonds and relationships between people. It is better to see someone have smile on their faces.
January 17, 2021 Author Albert
Giving or gift exchange is a major part of celebrating the holidays, the whole act of gift-giving can offer psychological benefits. Giving a gift is a universal way to show interest, appreciation, and gratitude, as well as strengthen bonds with others
January 17, 2021 Author Albert
Better to give than to receive, gift-giving is also an act of altruism, unselfish concern for the well-being of others. When we give without expecting anything in return, we are improving our psychological health
January 17, 2021 Author Janeth
I believe that the real secret to happiness is by giving, sharing and helping others.
January 17, 2021 Author genesis
Giving helps others. If you’re blessed with the means to live a reasonably comfortable way of life, you have the ability to give.
The world outside can be a dark place, and those who have little or nothing depend on the generosity and loving-kindness of people with a giving spirit.
When you give to the less fortunate, you add to their lives – and by adding to theirs, you add to yours too.
January 17, 2021 Author genesis
Giving inspires giving. People who have been on the receiving end of kindness to pay it forward and give to others even when they have hardly anything to give. Perpetuating the cycle of giving makes the world a better, more humane place to live in. Be a good role-model for people around you, especially the young who are feeling entitled to receive whatever they want.
January 17, 2021 Author Jimbogs
I believe that giving cultivates self-worth. You may be giving for a selfish reason, you’ll feel good about yourself.
Even so, the effects of your kindness on others are purely positive and you can both bask in the joy that giving brings to those you’ve helped. There’s nothing wrong with feeling proud of your generosity and using that to spur you on to further acts of kindness in the future. It’s a good way to start believing in yourself.
January 17, 2021 Author James Santos
Seeing the smiles, gratitude and expressions of hope on the faces of those you are kind to makes the act of giving worthwhile. Giving makes you and everyone of us happy.