I can’t remember the last time I received more gifts during Christmas than actual gifts I give during the holiday season. It’s likely that the older we get, the less gifts we tend to receive. We all know what great feeling it is as a kid, that we receive presents from our parents, relatives and friends, regardless of what it was. The feeling of just unwrapping presents is just a good overall feeling.
But there’s this more satisfying feeling in our life that we now know is so much better than receiving. It is to have been able to give a huge part of ourselves to others. Anybody who has helped another person selflessly without anything in return knows this is 100% true. But why is it that not everyone is able to wrap their heads around adopting an ongoing mindset of giving more of themselves towards another person? The answer I believe is that it has nothing to do with our own circumstances.
I’ve been blessed to have met the most generous people with almost nothing but are willing to share or give anything little that they own or possess. I’ve also been around the most well-off people who are epitome of stingy when it comes to their talents, time and money. What’s the difference between the two that I described? It’s two things: Mindset and attitude.
I’ve noticed that people who give with no strings attached have what we call an “Abundance Mindset” most of the time. These are the people that don’t have the need to broadcast to everyone how many people they have helped, however big or small it may be. They’re naturally generous people because they have a belief that if they give, their resources of wealth will never be empty. The moment we stop giving using a “scarcity mindset”, the little we have will become even less than what it is. When we give openly without thinking that we’re going to get something from doing this using the Abundance Mindset, we we give away eventually multiplies in ways we are not aware of or expect.
I believe this mindset is true and it works. A student of mine recently asked me in one of our Life Deck Masterminds Class why does he need to learn the Abundance Mindset? My answer caught my student by surprise. When you believe there is an abundance of wealth, life will give it to you. If you believe that your resources are scarce, then that’s what you will get. This is what decades of giving your attention to the attitudes of people around you will do. This is life unfolding for all of us, slowly. I know what I speak of is the truth.
If your wish for yourself moving forward is to be more generous and giving, the only thing you need to change is how you think and your attitude about abundance. This makes you more generous as a person, but also it will change your life completely. I always tell all my students this in our classes, that money is an amplifier of who a person is. If you give a poor person who is insecure more money, they will become more insecure as a person. If you give an asshole or a bitch more money, they will become a bigger asshole or a badder bitch. But if you give a poor generous person more money that they deserve, they become even more generous. Do you agree?
Question of the day: What is your mentality when it comes to giving?