I’m a person who is overly optimistic. It’s more of a gift than a curse for me. When everyone thinks like a pessimist or like a realist should be, I’m there shining with optimism that it will always work out. Sometimes I’m right, sometimes I’m wrong, and for me, it’s all good. I don’t take things too hard on myself. I was brought up to be highly optimistic about things in life and it has translated in to me being more happy than what my situation suggests.
If you want to be successful, I think it’s in your best interest to create and maintain a positive attitude. An attitude of optimism, expectancy and enthusiasm creates opportunities to grow and problems to become less. Here’s the 7 tips for you to stay optimistic:
- Expect everything to be wonderful every single day – I always tend to begin each day and each 1st day of the week with an expectation that it will be great. That something wonderful is going to happen today even if I don’t know what it is about. Your attitude is the result of how you view the world, not with what’s happening in it. The day’s events might not be in your liking but even so, if you look for things to be positive that day, your mind will find something to complete that expectation.
- Never try to read minds of people and treat them as you’d want to be treated – Make the assumption that other people will treat you well. Just thinking about the weird behaviors people have, to the bad motives they have just adds misery to our lives. Assuming good intentions of everyone creates an opening to reconciling. I can’t read minds and everyone you talk to can’t be tied to a lie detector test. Ask yourself these 4 things before you tell a story about someone else: 1 Is it true? 2 is it necessary? 3 is it kind? and 4 would I want someone telling this same story about me? That’s how you treat other people the way you’d like to be treated.
- Don’t waste your time fighting about things you can’t change – Avoid depressing or violent conversations as much as you can. From your personal conversations to your social media feed, remove them permanently every time you see them. You are what you consume. It’s a waste of your time to argue about things such as religion and politics, nobody wins in those.. When topics like those arise, immediately bow out of it. Whether you agree or not, it’s not a useful discussion for you to have right now, not ever. Choose your battles wisely. Is it really worth fighting for if you yourself can’t inflict change? Most likely the answer to that is a resounding yes. What’s important isn’t about winning the argument for me, but me just instigating it and letting them stir the pot for me to my advantage while I work on my next plan.
- Focus on the task at hand, not on the results you’re looking for – Let go of your results. The top enemy of happiness is WORRY, which comes from your focus directing to events that are OUTSIDE of your control. If you do take action, there’s nothing you can do about it. Focus on the task at hand and not some fantasy that you created on what could happen. Nothing remains the same, everything is transitory. Everything too shall pass.
- Take control of the pleasures in your life – Always try to improve the quality of your life at least once a day. Eat something nutritious, do some sort of exercise, learn something new that’s useful. Focus on that and enjoy it. Enjoy some background noise like an audiobook, a positive podcast and relaxing music. Throw everything at home that is either not useful, not working and ugly. Remove pollutants around you that are ugly and serve no use.
- Always be thankful for every single day, every accomplishment that you achieve – Have an attitude of gratitude. You liked that huh? all your accomplishments deserve some sort of self recognition. No not go on to the next task without some sort of celebration, even just a pat on the back will do like “Hey man, good job on this. You deserve this.”. Same goes to everyone you meet, a verbal or virtual gift like a smile or a word of encouragement, a gesture of politeness or even a friendly nod. I always say “THANK YOU!” to everyone that does something of value to me, from the littlest of things, to the biggest ones. Every night, I have a small notebook of things I am thankful for that day, however small or big it is. Be grateful for your day, because it will never come again the same way.
- The best is yet to come mindset – Have an eye on the future instead of focusing on your past mistakes or the wrong that you did to someone. Yes learning from the past is important, but keep an eye on your thoughts for the future. Think about how things might be better, not worse. Let your thoughts wonder at times that you will create a better future for yourself. Believe that the best is yet to come for yourself.
Question of the day: What are you most thankful for right at this very moment? Write it down on the comments section.